Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·PinnedMember-onlyHere’s What Science Says About Attachments In Unhealthy RelationshipsIntermittent Reward Systems In Relationships and Beyond — I find relationships fascinating, especially unhealthy ones. Why is it that all the red flags in the world can be staring us right in the face and yet we continue to pine after and remain attached to people who mistreat us or are otherwise unavailable; emotionally or physically? It’s a…Philosophy6 min readPhilosophy6 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·1 day agoMember-onlyGabor Maté’s 5 Steps to Breaking Limiting Beliefs, For GoodA Guide To Letting Go of Toxic Beliefs — As I mentioned in a previously article, I’ve been reading Gabor Maté’s new book, the Myth of Normal this past week and on the flip-side of some telling evidence to support the assumption that our society is pretty messed up, to say the least, Gabor offers up some well needed…Psychology8 min readPsychology8 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·2 days agoMember-onlyPeople-Pleasing Is Selfish but How Do We Stop?What people-pleasing really is — On this personal growth journey, I have had several wake-up calls, or hard truths hit me like a two-by-four. One of them was this: My people-pleasing tendencies were actually rooted in selfishness rather than the “good place” I originally had thought. My attempts to people please weren’t coming from the…Health7 min readHealth7 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·4 days agoMember-onlyThe Energetic Imbalance Between Low Self-Worth and Unhealthy RelationshipsFinding Balance For Healthy Attractions — All of us have an energetic frequency that we give out to the world which differs moment to moment, and day to day. …Relationships7 min readRelationships7 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·Nov 23Member-onlyDid You Sacrifice Authenticity For Connection?How Our Biological Need For Safety Sabotages Our Ability To Be Ourselves — I’ve recently been reading Gabor Mate’s, The Myth of Normal. In it the renowned psychologist Dr. Mate challenges Western civilisation’s seemingly “broken” healthcare system by unravelling the truth’s of human nature — and how these truth’s are consistently overlooked when it comes to clinical treatments. As part of his case…Personal Development7 min readPersonal Development7 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·Nov 21Member-onlyThe False Self and Benefits of Authentic ExpressionWhy Self Expression Matters — Recently I’ve been prepping for the release of my podcast. 2 years in the making, and 350 Medium articles later, I wanted to push myself further out of my comfort zone than I have been before. Starting to write 3 years ago wasn’t just a callback to an earlier hobby…Personal Development5 min readPersonal Development5 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·Nov 20Member-onlyGetting Comfortable With Rejection: 3 Tips for GrowthDo you take rejection personally? — I am writing this post today in light of a quote I stumbled upon by Mark Groves, a human connection specialist, podcaster, and social media influencer who speaks regularly on the topic of relationships. It goes as follows, “The depth to which we allow ourselves to love is always met…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·Nov 16Member-onlyTips for Dating an Avoidant PartnerAvoidantly attached individuals fear closeness and the emotional connection relationships can bring. It leads them to push others away, become emotionally numb, and come across as slightly aloof or straight-up rude and disrespectful. This means avoidant partners can garner a bad rep but it’s worth reminding ourselves that the source…Personal Development6 min readPersonal Development6 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Nov 15Member-onlyStop Resisting and Practice AcceptanceTo many, acceptance means to comply; to give in, or put up with things that shouldn’t, quote-on-quote, be “accepted”. I use to be on of these people. “Why should I accept my circumstance for what they are?”, I’d argue. I didn’t want to accept it. …Personal Development5 min readPersonal Development5 min read
Published inChange Your Mind Change Your Life·Nov 14Member-onlyDeepening Into IntimacyHow To Navigate Emotional Unavailability In Yourself, and Others — The more I engage in relationships the more I begin to realize that, I’m emotionally unavailable. This is ironic considering history presented me with anxious behaviors that led me to chase after love. I always considered myself someone who wanted to be with someone. Until I actually was. From there…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read