Thanks Katika! I understand your point completely. I don’t intend to not accept people’s flaws or challenges in relationship as I and my partner have our own in my current one!

Often where I speak of however is the place of toxic unavailability that I use to experience when dating. There’s a discernment we all need to make when choosing a partner. Is this person hurting and do I love them inclusive of that? Or is this person simply disinterested in me? There’s a lot of questions, which makes this work so interested! I never want to generalise on any statement as all relationships come in different flavours and perspectives.

Thanks!!!